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Sex on Earth: A Celebration of Animal Reproduction
Jules Howard

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic - Esther Perel I saw Esther Perel on The Colbert Report and as always, Colbert made the conversation interesting. I'm not one for self-help books or couple advice, but I was intrigued after that interview. I should have just stayed away.

The basis of this book appears to be "familiarity breeds contempt." Emotional distance, according to the author, equals a better sex life and therefore better marriage. I found this wholly contradictory and I could not get on board with her "therapy" message. Honestly Perel comes across as a poor therapist and the couples detailed do not, in all practicality, seem to belong together. I absolutely did not relate to the author or the couples and their problems. The overall lack of statistics and anything resembling facts or studies turned me off further. No, references to other writers' quotes and individuals (such as Tony Robbins, oy), do not bolster the book.

I also disliked that the author puts a lot of the pressure and fault on women. Women talk too much, women want to be too close, women are too prudish due to feminism. That was more than enough for me to call it quits with this ridiculous book.